Harusnya ak bisa ikut seneng ketika temen dan orang2 yang kita sayangi bisa memiliki rencana untuk menikah. Yupp menikah...satu tahap awal hidup, yang dimulai dengan bersatu nya dua manusia dan dua kepribadian yang berbeda. Pertanyaannya adalah apa ya yang kira2 bikin sebagian orang itu yakin untuk menikah? Menghabiskan sisa hidup nya untuk mengabdi kepada keluarga baru. Just about us, hidup menjadi tanggung jawab kita bersama sebagai pasangan yang mengucapkan janji saling setia sehidup-semati.
Ketika banyak temen2 yang mulai menikah, punya anak..dan memiliki kehidupan mereka.. aku justru semakin mundur, semakin jauh, dan semakin biasa saja...seperti belum ada alasan kuat yg mengharuskan menikah?? *aneh* ............................................. Menikah sepertinya bukan hanya "menemukan orang yang tepat" namun bagaimana kita bisa mencintai orang yang kita temukan dan terus menerus. Kita nggak akan menemukan cinta itu selamanya, tetapi harus mengusahakannya dari hari ke hari. Apakah mereka yang menikah tau konsep tersebut? Lalu mengapa hingga saat ini, semuanya semakin berat.
The Art Of A Good Marriage
Wilferd Arlan Peterson
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end
with the honeymoon, it should continue through the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
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